The Nightmare of Christmas!


When I was a child, there was nothing I loved more than Christmas. I would spend time with my grandparents decorating, wrapping presents, listening to Christmas carols and baking. We were always making memories.

Fast forward, I got married and we started making memories of our own; hosting holiday parties and  having our parents and extended family for the big gathering. 

The month of December was full throttle holiday mania! 

We looked forward to a White Christmas and Bing Crosby singing our favorite holiday classics. We loved watching our children as they woke up Christmas morning with great anticipation of Santa! By Christmas evening, we were toast!

After losing so many family members, Christmas is now something we dread. Those happy moments are now faded memories. There is a loneliness as the holidays approach that only those who have experienced loss could understand. 

For the past few years, we have been alone. The present you long for is the presence of the loved ones we have lost. Every holiday became even harder, since we were taking care of a family member who was battling cancer. 

It became hard to remember the joy the holidays used to bring. This year will be our first Christmas that we have not lost a loved one. In order to survive, we can try to make new memories that put us in a positive place. We have to get to a healthy mental state in order to feel enjoyment. 

This year, my dear friend has invited us to celebrate with her family. We are looking forward to it. Our children grew up together and our families have been through more than you can imagine, but we have always been there for each other. 

This year, we are thankful for good health, new friendships, and finding a new purpose for our lives! 

Circumstances are always changing. It begins with putting one foot in front of the other and making new traditions. Instead of the big Christmas Eve dinner that I'd normally cook for days, we are going to enjoy one of our favorite restaurants. Followed by a drive to see all the Christmas lights. 

I will bake this evening some of our favorite desserts for tomorrows dinner with friends. Although our new Christmas is celebrated differently, we will enjoy being with friends and thankful for the blessings we do have.

All we want want for Christmas are the things money can't buy!

Here are some suggestions for surviving the holidays:

  1. Make new traditions. 
  2. Reach out to someone you know who may be alone for the holidays.
  3. Help others through volunteering. It makes us more appreciative for the blessings we have.
  4. Go to the movies.
  5. Go to your favorite restaurant.
  6. Invite friends over for desserts and holiday cheer!