What To Do When Friends Aren't Enough

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The friends you thought would be there are nowhere to be found, and the ones you least expect are always around.

Once we experience loss, we start to look at our friends differently. 

The friends I had for years, just didn't understand what I was going through. It wasn't their fault, but I could no longer relate. I no longer felt the satisfaction I used to. 

If you don't understand what someone is going through, you'll never be enough. I know that sounds harsh but it's the truth.

We connect to people we can relate to and we reach out to those we know will listen.

  • Think about doing something different. Change up your activity. For example, if you enjoy cooking, take a cooking class. You can learn something new and have interaction with others. This forces you out of your everyday routine. 
  • Take an exercise class. Exercise releases endorphins and gets you moving. This is another way to force yourself out of the house. You may even be more motivated to show up if you know others are there.
  • Find groups that share similar experiences. Book clubs, dining groups, support groups, to name a few. If you're a student, check with your school, they may offer groups that you're not aware of. 
  • Take a chance! Go somewhere with friends. You never know who you'll meet. 

It's important to find a new, positive outlet. Find someone who will listen to you without the fluff. Someone/something that can help you get through the day. Someone/something that brings you satisfaction. If your friends are making you feel worse, you know it's time to make a change. 

 

 

 

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