From Loneliness To Loveliness

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For the longest time, solitude was my only friend.

As much as I yearned for human connection, I just couldn't get out of my own way. I drank to fill the loneliness and I remained in a toxic relationship because it was all I had at the time. 

I began to shut everyone out because I could no longer relate to anyone. I no longer felt the satisfaction I used to. The friends I had for years couldn't understand what I was going through. It wasn't their fault, but I could no longer relate to them. 

Loneliness is like living in a black hole. The deeper you you get, the harder it is to climb out. It's like quicksand, unless someone throws you a rope, you can't make it out alone. 

So, how can you counteract loneliness?  

  1. It starts with being comfortable in your own company; to not use people as an escape, but rather a pleasure. 
  2. Seek human connection. Human connection is one of the most important influences to our mental health. 
  3. Join a support group. Find people who share similar life experiences. We connect to those we can relate to and we reach out to those we know will listen. 

  4. Volunteer. Sometimes our pain can be alleviated by helping those in need. 

  5. Seek therapy. Finding the right therapist is key to your success. They will be able to look at your situation from a different perspective and offer healthy ways of coping. 

It's critical NOT to isolate yourself. It can lead to depression, substance abuse and even suicide. Having support from family or friends is key. We are not meant to do this alone!