From Tragedy to Self-Discovery!


My father once said, “Life will throw you curveballs, you just need to learn how to deal with them and hit them.”

Our 20’s are either the most exciting time of our life or the most difficult. It’s a time where every decision we make determines our life’s course. It’s a time where decisions will be tested due to peer pressure from friends and co-workers. It’s a time that determines our outlook on life, who we choose to surround ourselves with and the type of person we want to be.

Losing my father was the biggest curveball I did not know how to hit. I was practicing that swing for a long time and it didn't stop there. We lost five family members in five years, I suffered from depression, anxiety, panic attacks, alcohol abuse, questioning who I was and trying to find reasons to look forward to the future. 

Everything came crashing down in my life. It hit me hard because I didn't realize how much my father was responsible for my compass. When I lost him, I lost my source of direction. I had to learn how to be my own discipline. I had to finally take ownership of my compass. My life took a new direction. I eventually found purpose in my pain.  

Some roads we take are detours. Whereas, others feel like dead ends. Life is like a road. We know where we want to go but one wrong turn can lead us into a whole new direction and sometimes we don’t always find our way back. We find a new path and we travel to places we never imagined.

Life dealt me a deck of cards I couldn’t trade in. I had to learn how to turn lemons into lemonade and it wasn’t easy! It took a long time before I learned a positive message and grew from adversity. I discovered so much about myself I never would have discovered if I didn’t experience loss.

Things aren't always black and white. There are events that happen to us that have no explanation. Someday we’ll look back on our life and understand how life events carved the person we are today.

Appreciate your struggles because it’s part of the self-discovery process. It’s what shapes us. It’s what makes us humble. It’s what makes us grateful and it’s what makes us work harder.