Why It's Easier to Talk About Depression to Strangers

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You know the saying, "If you have to keep your relationship a secret, you shouldn't be in it?" Well, that's how I feel about depression. 

Depression is like a secret. It's known, but not talked about, and it's only revealed with permission.  

It's a Tuesday night and I'm attending a food and wine event that I've been looking forward to for weeks. My hair is done, my makeup is done, I'm dressed up, in good company and feeling motivated!

When all of the sudden, I feel an overwhelming urge to cry. All I could think of in this moment is, "Of all times, does this have to be happening now?" Of course it does! Because depression never comes at a convenient time. 

The one person who is like a sister to me, I couldn't bring myself to tell her I was struggling. I choked up and chalked it up as I wasn't feeling well. 

Why do we do this? Why is it so hard to tell our loved ones we are hurting but easier to tell a stranger? 

The answer is...

because we will never see that person again. We feel a stranger won't judge us. They are able to look at us from a different perspective. 

Whereas, the people who know us better than we know ourselves may not take us as seriously. They have carved out an impression of who they think we are.

I believe social media makes it worse. People have the perception that you are busy based on what we post. However, you can be the busiest yet loneliness person at the same time. 

There is a thing called a chemical burst. We can be feeling good for days, weeks or even months, but it only takes one event or one trigger for our emotions to come pouring out like a hose.

Sometimes we are triggered by comparing ourselves to others, afraid we are not going to go far in life, discouraged by our current situation and the list goes on and on.

They say the only way to eliminate stigma is by talking about it. So this is me talking about it. I'm more comfortable expressing myself through writing and music. 

Some people have a strong support system and some have positive outlets. It's all about finding ways to repair yourself in order to make the most out of life.